What to do when a friendship turns toxic?

Photo courtesy of Charmed Kingdom
Photo courtesy of Charmed Kingdom

I must admit, In my 21 years I have had friendships go sour. It’s normal and everyones been through it. As we grow, our true friends rise with us while others try to pull us down.

Friendship is about being there during thick and thin. It’s about listening to each others daily drama and heartache. But what if you take 2am phone calls from them, but they never return the favor? Hell, they never even ask how your doing.

We had a guest speaker in class a couple weeks ago. She said the first step to being successful is cutting toxic people out of your life. She said if you leave conversations drained or upset on a regular basis, that person is only going to keep you down. This was something I needed to hear.

After years of friendship, I recently discovered I was being manipulated. I calmly went to her and expressed how I felt only to be shut down. The next day it was like the conversation never happened. I spent yet another day of my life listening to her drama. But since then, I’ve reached out to chat and haven’t heard anything back.

You see, toxic people only care about friendship when they need something. They don’t care about you or your feelings. They will give you enough to barely keep the “friendship” alive. My advice: if you feel unappreciated in a relationship, speak your mind in the kindest way possible. If they don’t make an effort, neither should you. The people closest to you should make you feel empowered, not drained.

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Mark Twain

 

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